Sabotaging My Way From The Finish Line

Well it has been quite awhile since I have blogged or shared a word or thought of the week. However, recently God took me through an inner healing process I like to call “The Shedding of The Strong Friend ”. It was so needed but hard to confront and unlearn some of those toxic behaviors that came with being called to be “The Strong Friend”.

Yes, you heard that right, Called. Strong friends are in a category of their own. They have a strength that is unheard of, are very loyal, solution-focused, great listeners, and an all around great friend to have. However, they are all of these things most of the time at the sacrifice and detriment of self.

When beginning this process with God he said I was in bondage to servitude and I had no clue what that meant. I am going to bring you guys along on the journey I recently had to confront in hopes that this may set someone else free.

God informed me that I was the reason I wasn’t seeing the Promise and making it to the finish line. Shocked but not shocked at the same time I asked for clarification.

“Destiny is what people think of you more important than what I think of you?'“ God asked me

“No!” I replied hesitantly

“So, why do you allow it to continue to keep you from receiving everything I have in store for you?”

How am I doing that? That isn’t my intention.

When people reach out and ask, How you are doing? Why do you feel the need to say I am fine when you aren’t? When you are already overwhelmed by your plate and all that you have on it and someone reaches out requesting your help or response immediately why do you feel the need to respond immediately and in most cases choose to respond immediately?

Have I not gave you clear instructions to be honest in all your feelings you have whether good, bad, or indifferent? Have I not made it absolutely clear what is priority in this season? Do you not trust that what I tell you is for your good?

I mean I do.. but,….

You don’t! You know better than me, right?

I don’t I just like to help as much as I can and I don’t want to waste my time telling someone that I am not ok just for it to get ignored and overshadowed with their pressing issue or problem anyway.

Both are valid points Destiny but what if you letting your guard down and putting yourself in the position to be rejected didn’t get you rejected at all. But, instead would be the opportunity for me to open the door and release a blessing or a promise to you?

Destiny I have sent and am sending those friends for you that you can lean on as they lean on you. I am sending you those equally loyal partners. Those strong friends for another strong friend so the weight won’t be heavy on one side versus the other but will be equal.

So let go and let me be God! Your loving, caring and intentional father.

Comment below if you or someone you know was Called to be The Strong friend and tips that may help with letting go.